Posts Tagged ‘love’

Dissecting Butterflies

My friend Cath introduced me to the song Sleeps With Butterflies by Tori Amos. I’m using it in my page for some time now, but it is only of late that I chanced upon the lyrics of the song. And to my surprise, I somehow connected with the lyrics. :p So I decided to write an article about it for the hopeless romantic persons out there. :p

The song talks about a girl who “only sleeps with butterflies” – butterflies pertain to the ones she love. And the one she loves is very independent of her and very free-spirited; in fact she likes guys that are like that,

“I’m not, but I like rivers that rush in.”

This song reveals completely how to love a person who is busy with his career or one that has a very demanding life – actually, this applies to all relationships.

“Is there trouble ahead
For you the acrobat?
I won’t push you unless you have a net.”

We see, the girl realizes that there are times that her lover has other important things to mind. Therefore, at times like this, she does not demand a lot from her lover. She does not cling to much to him and she gives him space – one of the most important aspects in a relationship.

“I don’t hold on
To the tail of your kite.”

Instead, she just lets him be and do what he needs to do and she tries to be part of his life, to blend in.

Take you away again.
Are you flying
Above where we live?”

And the most important thing of all, the girl knows that for her to really appreciate her butterfly’s beauty is to let it fly – it is only when she observes him from a distant will she ever fully behold his beautiful nature.

Look good from on the ground.”

“So go on and fly then boy.”

The girl also tells us how to really care and how to show love to butterflies; first, give them the space that they need, and, second, be there when they need you the most.

“You say the word
You know I will find you.
Or if you need some time
I don’t mind.”

I wish I’d learn how to sleep with butterflies.


Hating The Irony Of Loving

You have to set the one you love free for them to be totally yours.

The tighter you hold on to someone, the possibility of losing her increases.

You only realize how much you love someone when she’s already gone.

Silence speaks more than words.

Becoming “one” means growing more as individuals.

^ ^

Because It Is The Love Month

I was texting with my buddy Malou last night and we were talking about random things (her boys mostly, haha). And our discussion suddenly drifted to “love”. I just wanna share with you my thoughts that I shared with Malou last night – my realizations about love.

In order to be truly prepared for love, one must:

1. Love oneself. As they say, how can a person give love when there is no love to within himself to give.

2. Genuinely believe that he deserves the other person. One should stop thinking that the other person is much too perfect (or unperfect) him. And stop thinking about what other people will think. Love is an agreement, an understanding between two persons, so you have to believe that you deserve one another to be able to accept each other.

3. Be able to fight for and be proud of the other person. If one can’t, then it’s not love at all.